It happens everyday, everywhere and to everyone yet nobody seems to correct it. In the beginning it is a state of I-trust-you-and-you-trust-me. A feeling of trust and faithfulness envelopes the group. An outrageously insane moment of oh-my-god-how-could-she-hide-such-a-thing. Emotions are high and an extra special bond develops.
Then, follows a period of an irresistible urge to tell it to someone-someone out of the group. Just one person. Come on! It doesn’t make a difference. After all, she must have told it to many others. She wouldn’t mind. She is your Friend. She’ll understand and even if she didn’t who cares? She is never going to find out who told. You’ll make sure of that.‑
And so the cycle repeats again. The state of I-trust-you-and-you-trust-me., the enveloping feeling of trust and faithfulness, the outrageously insane moment of oh-my-god-how-could-she-hide-such-a-thing and the special bond happens all over again. Only this time the secret circle is different.
The last phase of this popular phenomenon is a painful one. A feeling of guilt, remorse and repentance every time a did-you-tell-anyone moment comes up is a very good indicator of this phase. Another important characteristic feature of this phase is the constant Nagging feeling that forces you to run up to the members of your other secret circle and have a panicky and suspicious did-you-tell-anyone moment. And of course there is the will-she-find-out moment too-quite scary. But then it is in the end and so, till then let this be a secret between you and me- I once let the cat out of the bag (Hush!).
Betsy Marina Babu